Helpful Holiday Tips

Holiday Time Tips

I have heard from many readers that they really appreciate my holiday family tips, so I am posting this blog again with some new perspectives and more helpful tips.

Every year at this time, I am reminded how many of us have so many mixed emotions about the holiday season no matter what holidays, if any, you celebrate.  Right around Thanksgiving, I found myself anxious when seeing holiday advertisements.  I also started feeling very emotional about all of the changes in life.  As adults, we might create idealized pictures of the holidays we had when we were young. Or, we might wish for different holiday experiences from the times we had as children. Either way, this time of year can bring feelings of stress, sadness, renewed grief for departed loved ones, and even pressure. I am from a family that celebrates both Hannukah and Christmas, so sometimes I think I feel double the pressure! Here are a few parenting tips to maintain balance and wellness through this time of year.

Tip 1: I recently read an article which discussed the visuals in magazines and even store fronts. It reminded the reader that these ads and sets are curated purposefully to sell things, and not realistic to achieve. Shortly after reading the article, my husband walked in the room while I was watching a Christmas Hallmark movie (yes I do watch those occasionally!). He looked at the tv and said "oh a perfect Hallmark house". In addition, I recently attended a college alumni tea, and found myself analyzing the home, the dishes, the décor, and comparing my own home to hers. Between the article, the tea, and my husband’s comments, I realized that I fall victim to the appearances as many do, and can't, nor should expect my home to be like others.  

Tip 2: Holiday time is filled with many events, activities, and parties. Maintain balance and set some boundaries. Over-scheduling can lead to fatigue, behavioral challenges, and overall, an opposite of family fun. Perhaps, choose 1 or 2 things that you like to do. Maybe there is one thing you want to set as a family tradition. Quality over quantity will maintain family wellness. It's ok to let go!

Tip 3: Family time and experiences make the memories. I assure you that your children will remember the meals, games, and joy over what they received as gifts.  My adult children consistently talk about our family rituals of eating latkes, celebrating with friends, and lighting the menorah. These are the meaningful memories we have made together, and will be passed on to new generations. Happy holidays with peace, joy, and health to you all.